Here’s a funny fact: The original title for No More Dirty Looks was actually Dirty Girls Come Clean. Can I just take a moment to give thanks that a legal conflict prevented us from writing a book that sounded like a porn flick? Bullet. Dodged.
But, just for fun, if we were to reimagine that porny title now with 20-20-hindsight, it would probably sound more like this: Clean Girls Get Dirty.
That’s because, promise as we did to each other that we would not devolve into dirty hippies as we rid our cosmetics’ bags of nasty chemicals, we did in fact end up embracing some slightly controversial cleansing (or more accurately, non-cleansing) habits.
Well, controversial no more! These days no matter where I turn, I see the mainstream media embracing dirtier beauty habits. Not shampooing has become an especially popular experiment among the beauty editor set, and when I recently wrote a post about not washing my face for MindBodyGreen, I was shocked by the response. It would appear that the people just might want to get dirty.
And speaking of MBG (are any of you as addicted as I am to this site?), I recently attended their groundbreaking revitalize event (think TED talks for the health and wellness crowd), and was pleased to learn that there’s increasing scientific muscle behind this less-washing-is-more movement.
Author Dr Robynne Chutkan, author of Gutbliss and one of my biggest brain crushes of the weekend, started her lecture by telling the 100-person audience (and millions online) that she had not showered for several days.
It turns out that exposing ourselves to a little dirt is not just good for our complexions and hair—because we’re no longer stripping those nourishing oils—but also for our guts. And of course what’s good for our guts, is also in turn great for our complexions and hair. You’ll have to read Chutkan’s book—I just ordered it—to better understand the science on this, but the woman is definitely a genius. (And it doesn’t hurt her argument that she’s stunning too.)
For my part, years after our first experiments, I have held on dearly to some of my dirtier habits. These include skipping daily showers in favor of every second or third day (unless I’m in summer heat, in which case I’ll jump in there several times a day), almost never washing my face (making an exception only for a product that’s made from actual “dirt”) and washing my hair about 3 or 4 times a year. So far, no serious complaints from friends, family, or colleagues.
How about you? What dirty habits are in your clean routine?
For the past few months I’ve been living a nomadic life—and it’s probably not going to change anytime soon. Every Monday before the crack of dawn, I get in a car and go down a dark (and miraculously empty) 101 freeway headed for LAX.
I land in San Francisco for my first meeting and for the next four days I live in that other California reality, so different from the one I have in LA. I work late, I go out to dinners, and I—gasp—walk places.
Come Thursday night, it’s back to the bigger city where I hole up at my cabin in the woods, drink tea, watch great TV shows, and eat home cooked meals. LA is officially my country getaway.
There are some crappy things about this arrangement: traveling is taxing; my carbon footprint is massive (though somewhat offset by the fact that I now barely drive); and I’m too late or lazy to request the patdowns at the airport anymore (which feels like a lot of low-level radiation in my life).
But generally I love this odd little routine. There’s just something about getting on a plane and going somewhere that makes life feel a little more something—a little less ho-hum.
It’s also forced me to be really healthy. You just cannot get on a plane twice a week and not get sick if you’re not taking proper care of yourself—at least I can’t.
But one thing has seriously suffered: my hair care routine! I always travel carry-on so the past months have been a weird patchwork of travel-sized products from both health food stores and hotel rooms.
But all that is about to change. I now have a semi-permanent place to rest my head in SF and an area to leave some toiletries to take care of that head.
In other words, I have my credit card out and am ready to double-down on some new hair products. But what should I buy?
Is there something new out there I haven’t tried yet? What are you using? As some of you know I have very curly hair that I barely ever wash (but more on that another time)—so it’s a bit of a special case.
Here are my 4 favorite brands of hair care past… Should they be my future?
- Intelligent Nutrients/Harmonics: Earlier this year, the NMDL crew was saddened to learn about the death of Horst Rechelbacher, founder of this incredible brand. But his legacy lives on in these super-clean products. I’m personally a huge fan of this Harmonics Conditioner as well as the IN Leave In Conditioner and our long-beloved Volumizing Spray.
- Acure: We love Acure here chez Dirty Looks. It’s affordable, widely available at Whole Foods, and just a darn great product. I especially love their gentle shampoo—perfect for a girl who only washes her hair every few months and doesn’t want to strip all the natural oils she’s been building! This conditioner is lovely too.
- Rare Elements: The Rare Elements Conditioner has been a longtime favorite of mine. The smell, the texture, the way it makes my hair look… But all this magic comes at a price. That’s why I like to mix it in with other products (like Acure), and use it more as a finishing touch. A little bit of this stuff goes a long way. I also just tried this newer Styling Mist and, holy moly, is is it divine. It has the same incredible geranium-ylang-ylang smell as the conditioner and it made my hair feel super soft to the touch but not weird or greasy at all.
- Andalou Naturals: This line is GREAT for curly hair and its totally affordable. It also smells like an orange grove in a good way. The awesome conditioner is totally clean, however if memory serves the very awesome styling cream has a no-no silicon ingredient. Grrr. You know, the kind that kills frizz and holds a curl perfectly?
Your turn! What should I add to this best-of list? Are there other lines you’re loving? (I’m especially on the hunt for styling products.)
But just like we all need to eat our veggies, if we want to be the most beautiful versions of ourselves we’ve always said that certain more internal topics need our attention. I happen to believe that forgiveness is one of them.
During my time in yoga jail (aka the beautiful ashram where I did my teacher training) I was lucky to get a really good teaching on this topic from an unexpected source. It was probably about halfway through the monthlong course, and as much as I was loving it I was also starting to feel a bit overwhelmed by some of the more woowoo-hindu-god type stuff.
Then in walks the lanky and comfortably disheveled Fred Luskin to give us a lecture on forgiveness. Luskin was just what the doctor ordered: A cynical academic from Stanford who’d managed to pry open his own heart to become a leading expert on the topic of forgiveness. Without getting too detailed into his research (I invite you to watch some of his talks on youtube, check out his books, and read this awesome article about his work on oprah.com), I’ll give you what I think is the crux of his argument:
Holding a grudge does nothing bad to your (real or imagined) perpetrator—and it does everything bad to your state of mind and feeling of safety in the world.
That’s not to say that Luskin doesn’t think we should get pissed when we feel like we’ve been wronged. Actually quite the opposite. But there’s an appropriate amount of time for holding a grudge before it starts writing a more permanent narrative in our lives, one that makes us fearful of others.
And that fear is shown to lead to bad behavior on our parts. If we feel wronged or threatened we are bound to turn that energy outward. Luskin claims his work is really just about getting people to be nicer to each other.
Luskin has some neat tricks and meditations/visualizations to help us rewrite our stories. But one really effective one he shares is the simple practice of gratitude. Turns out it’s really hard to hold a grudge when you feel grateful. And I’ll add for good measure that it’s hard to look beautiful while holding a grudge.
In fact, study after study has shown forgiveness to be good for the body—not just the mind and spirit.
So with that in mind, do you have any kind of gratitude or forgiveness practice? I’ll share mine if you share yours!
I’m going to keep this big announcement short and sweet: I’ve discovered my Holy Grail natural deodorant. For serious. I’m committing. #ThisShitWorksYouGuys
The discovery at hand is called Green Body Deodorant (not supes original—but who cares!) and as far as I can tell its only available here. It’s made in Oregon. Its founder is a pretty lady named Kristin. It’s vegan. It’s super clean. And it showed up in the mail one day. Thank you mail.
Here are the three reasons I’m wild about it.
- It comes in a stick, no fingers required. While Soapwalla will always have a place in my heart and my cabinet—and I’m still a big fan of the cedar goodness of Schmidts—it’s hard to beat the ease of application that a stick offers. I missed that from the dirty days, not going to lie.
- It also smells amazing. I have the Ylang-Ylang Jasmine combo (aka clarity) which happen to be two of my favorite scents. But the other ones sound pretty awesome too.
- It works. As good (maybe better?) than the best I’ve tried, including our first love, Lavanila, which used to cost 20 smackers (looks like they lowered the price to $14). Green Body costs $9. Oh, and it like reallyreallyreally works.
Here are the three ways I’ve put it to the test.
- In a 95 degree photo studio where I did the following: moved equipment, steamed clothing, fanned a model with a foam board, and other important things people do when they work in fashion.
- In a sweaty Piloxing class. Yes I still go to this ridiculously-named workout, and I haven’t stopped loving it.
- Through a day of travel. I don’t know what happens on airplanes, but they get me every time. Stinky! Not with this stuff.
Now the big question: What’s your Holy Grail natural deodorant?? Don’t hold back.
Once upon a time I was almost exclusively a savory gal. But these days I have a full-blown sweet tooth, and one thing I love to order if I see it on the menu is a little French number called Pot de Crème. Have you tried it? So good. Like ice cream that hasn’t been frozen, but instead whipped into delicious chocolate submission. I’ve never made it but I know that it’s filled with the usual dessert suspects like cream, egg yolks, and lots of sugar—not exactly your skin superfoods. But that’s about to change.
See, one of my pals from yoga camp is the co-founder of this very awesome company called CaCoCo. It’s all raw, vegan cacao (I know, I’m late to this party), ethically sourced from organic farmers in Ecuador. He recently gifted me a few bags of this so-called Superfood Drinking Chocolate and it basically blew my mind. But why drink chocolate if I can eat it, I wondered. And so was born my simple (and healthy!) take on a Pot de Crème using only 3 ingredients and my blender.
Here’s what you need:
—a powerful blender (I have a vitamix)
—1/3 cup raw cashews
—3/4 cup of CaCoCo drinking chocolate (whichever kind appeals most to you, I like the Global Warrior and Essential Midnight)
Possible extras, depending on your tastes: sea salt and/or sweetener of your choice (sugar, stevia, agave, maple syrup)
Here’s how you make it:
Boil about a cup of water and mix it in the blender with the drinking chocolate. Then add in the cashews and avocado and keep blending (on high) until it’s smooth. Pour the thick pudding-like mixture it in a mason jar or other glass container and let it cool in the fridge for a few hours. The CaCoCo itself is not overly-sweet (they also use healthier sweeteners like stevia, carob, and coconut nectar) so if you need extra tszuj you can add to taste. And even though there’s already sea salt in there, I like to add a little bit more. I still have that savory tooth!
Traditionally Pot de Crème is served with a little whip cream on top and chocolate sprinkles. If you’re vegan, I suggest you add a little cashew cream or just skip it. I sprinkle some more of the chocolate bits on top which adds an amazing crunch to the super-creamy texture. Good night!
Aside from being delicious this dessert is filled with skin-loving fats and antioxidants galore—and it’s insanely easy to make. I might even like it better than the original!
What’s your dessert jam? Got any great recipes to share?